A few years ago, several of us participated in #Nerdlution. If you missed it the first round, you can read about it here. And here. And here.
I wasn't so successful with #nerdlution and hadn't thought much about it, but a few days Niki Barnes tweeted out:
I figured it was a good time to revisit some goals and think about what I wanted to focus on in the next few months. Our original #nerdlution was 50 days so we set the 2016 #nerdlution to run from January 4 (tomorrow!) until February 22. I don't remember why we settled on 50 but that seemed like a good timeframe again.
My first instinct was to set the goal "Pull myself together". But Colby Sharp is serious about goals and he reminded me that it needed to be more specific with this:
And I found this one that was interesting.
And then I read Chris Lehman’s post about his hopes for the year.
So I thought hard about what I meant when I said I needed to "pull myself together". How would that be measurable? Niki Barnes suggested a Before and After picture but that seemed a little stressful! What was keeping me from feeling "pulled together" on a daily basis. It's taken me a few days of thinking but here is what I've figured out.
I plan too much for a day or a weekend or a chunk of time. My to-do list is always impossible and I like it that way. I like the work I do and I like to be busy. But because my to-do list is never-ending by choice, I have gotten into the habit of trying to get finished with my to-do list even though it isn't mean to be finished. So I end up feeling a big overwhelmed by all that I have to do. (even if I don't have to do it for weeks). I end up rushing in the morning and rushing in the evening and then living a bit chaotically because of it. Because I am trying to check things off my list, I don't make time for things that help me to feel organized. Whether I am put together or not, I don't feel like it because I have started to feel frazzled in the morninsg and in the evenings.
So to help with this goal, I have a few things I am going to try to change in the next 50 days. These are things I will do no matter how long my to-do list is (because it is always long, by choice remember:-)
-I will take the time to wash my face and use moisturizer every morning and night. (This is something that I often skip because I try to check things off my to-do list and work "for just one more minute" until I am so tired that all I can do is fall into bed.)
-I will pack healthy lunches and have healthy breakfasts on most days (which means I will have to take a few minutes to plan and prepare these.)
-I will exercise 5 days a week. Anything for 25+ minutes will count. (My to-do list will no longer be an excuse).
-As a family, we will spend 10 minutes every night picking up stuff in our family room and kitchen. We tend to put things on the tables and the island as we go about our business each day. This become a bit overwhelming after a few days so we are committing to doing this each night before we go to bed.
None of these things are very hard and none of these take a long time but I think they will help me feel like I am more put together and less frantic about things. I think this list will also give me permission to put my to-do list aside for a chunk of time each day. Dropping daily routines has become a bad habit and I use my to-do list as an excuse too often. Building these habits back into life seems doable and very worthwhile. I am actually looking forward to it. I may not look any different at the end of #nerdlution (which is why I did not take Nikki's advice to measure my #Nerdlution with a before and after picture:-) but I am hoping that I feel more put together, more balanced and less obsessed with my never-ending to-do list (did I mention that I love everything on my to-do list!).
We hope you will join us! If you have some new thing you are trying to commit to, join us with the #nerdlution hashtag on Twitter and on our Nerdlution Facebook Page!
So I thought hard about what I meant when I said I needed to "pull myself together". How would that be measurable? Niki Barnes suggested a Before and After picture but that seemed a little stressful! What was keeping me from feeling "pulled together" on a daily basis. It's taken me a few days of thinking but here is what I've figured out.
I plan too much for a day or a weekend or a chunk of time. My to-do list is always impossible and I like it that way. I like the work I do and I like to be busy. But because my to-do list is never-ending by choice, I have gotten into the habit of trying to get finished with my to-do list even though it isn't mean to be finished. So I end up feeling a big overwhelmed by all that I have to do. (even if I don't have to do it for weeks). I end up rushing in the morning and rushing in the evening and then living a bit chaotically because of it. Because I am trying to check things off my list, I don't make time for things that help me to feel organized. Whether I am put together or not, I don't feel like it because I have started to feel frazzled in the morninsg and in the evenings.
So to help with this goal, I have a few things I am going to try to change in the next 50 days. These are things I will do no matter how long my to-do list is (because it is always long, by choice remember:-)
-I will take the time to wash my face and use moisturizer every morning and night. (This is something that I often skip because I try to check things off my to-do list and work "for just one more minute" until I am so tired that all I can do is fall into bed.)
-I will pack healthy lunches and have healthy breakfasts on most days (which means I will have to take a few minutes to plan and prepare these.)
-I will exercise 5 days a week. Anything for 25+ minutes will count. (My to-do list will no longer be an excuse).
-As a family, we will spend 10 minutes every night picking up stuff in our family room and kitchen. We tend to put things on the tables and the island as we go about our business each day. This become a bit overwhelming after a few days so we are committing to doing this each night before we go to bed.
None of these things are very hard and none of these take a long time but I think they will help me feel like I am more put together and less frantic about things. I think this list will also give me permission to put my to-do list aside for a chunk of time each day. Dropping daily routines has become a bad habit and I use my to-do list as an excuse too often. Building these habits back into life seems doable and very worthwhile. I am actually looking forward to it. I may not look any different at the end of #nerdlution (which is why I did not take Nikki's advice to measure my #Nerdlution with a before and after picture:-) but I am hoping that I feel more put together, more balanced and less obsessed with my never-ending to-do list (did I mention that I love everything on my to-do list!).
We hope you will join us! If you have some new thing you are trying to commit to, join us with the #nerdlution hashtag on Twitter and on our Nerdlution Facebook Page!
Is it okay if I just steal your list for my use? :) I use chains.cc to help me keep momentum going on small things I want to do regularly (like wash my face at night or exercise several days a week) and I'm amazed at how similar my list is to yours.
ReplyDeleteOf course! It is funny how letting these little things go is a big deal!
ReplyDeleteI love this post, your thinking and your honesty about getting yourself together. We often do let the little things slide when we are tired and over busy because we enjoy the work we do. I also love how you have included your family in this plan. Life takes teamwork.
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